Supporting children through big emotions can feel challenging, whether you’re a parent, teacher, or therapist. Emotional regulation isn’t about forcing kids to always be calm or “behave.” It’s a lifelong skill that everyone continues to develop well into adulthood.
There are many myths that can make us feel stuck or unsure about how to best support children’s emotional growth. Let’s gently explore some common misunderstandings and replace them with kinder, clearer facts. Understanding these can help all of us (parents, educators, and therapists) create spaces where children feel truly seen and supported.
Myth 1: Children should always be calm
Fact: Feeling a wide range of emotions is normal and healthy. The parts of the brain that help control emotions are still growing and changing well into young adulthood. When children express feelings like frustration, sadness, or excitement, their brains are learning important skills for handling emotions.
Myth 2: Ignoring tantrums teaches discipline
Fact: When you notice and respond to a child’s feelings, you help calm their stress system in the brain. This makes them feel safe and supported. Over time, this helps the child learn how to manage their feelings better on their own.
Myth 3: Distraction is the best way to help
Sometimes distraction can help for a moment (depending on the age of the child as well as their capacity to process emotions), but it’s important for children to be moving towards learning to express their feelings safely. This helps their brain understand and calm down instead of just pushing emotions aside as they grow.
Myth 4: Kids should be able to control their emotions by age 5
Fact: The brain areas that help with self-control develop slowly and keep growing through childhood and adolescence. Expecting children to manage all their feelings perfectly at a young age is unrealistic. Kids need support from caring adults while their brains grow.
Myth 5: All emotional outbursts are bad behaviour
Fact: Emotional outbursts often happen when a child’s brain feels overwhelmed or scared. These reactions are signals that they need help calming down - not punishment. Understanding this helps adults respond with kindness and patience.
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